The strange domination of what other people think and people’s opinions of what success means can be a toxic and overwhelming force in our lives. We often find ourselves seeking validation from others, striving to meet their expectations and measure up to their standards. But the truth is, the only person whose opinion matters is our own. We have on average 30,000 days on this earth, and we shouldn’t waste a single one of them living up to someone else’s idea of success.
It’s natural to care about what others think of us, but when we allow their opinions to control our thoughts and actions, we give away our power. We become prisoners of their expectations, and we lose sight of who we truly are and what we want out of life. The only way to break free from this cycle is to realize that nobody’s opinion of us matters but our own. We need to be at ease with ourselves, our lives, and our choices, and learn to sleep soundly at night knowing that we are living our lives on our own terms.
When we put ourselves out in the public eye in any capacity, people will judge us. That’s a fact of life. But we need to remember that all opinions and truths apart from our own don’t matter. We should strive to behave well and be the best versions of ourselves, but we’ll still have people critiquing or presenting an angle on who we are and why we do what we do. That’s why opinions, as they say, are like arseholes – everybody’s got one.
The key is to be our own judge and not let the world and society affect us. We need to try some meditation or mindfulness, regulate our breathing, and objectively evaluate anything we’re worried about. We need to learn to filter out the noise and focus on what truly matters – our own goals, passions, and happiness.
There will always be people who don’t care about us or who don’t agree with us. But the truth is, they don’t matter. We shouldn’t waste our time and energy trying to convince them or seeking their approval. We should focus on ourselves, surround ourselves with people who support and uplift us, and strive to live our lives to the fullest.
As Lichtenberg once said, “Nothing is more conducive to peace of mind than not having any opinion at all.” So let’s learn to let go of the opinions of others, embrace our own unique paths, and find the peace of mind that comes with living authentically and true to ourselves.