Stoicism isn’t as simple as a decision. Much as most of us would ideally like to experience it being. “I’m going to be stoic, therefore I am stoic.” No.
It takes practice and one of the main areas where you need to focus is learning what your failed patterns are and how to rewire yourself with them.
You have to realize that some people and some circumstances can’t be reasoned with and that truly your only worthwhile option is not to debate or argue but to remain in control and strong in not confronting it, in not forcing your point. Some people cannot be reasoned with. They’re literally always right. Try not to be someone like that but also try not to argue with someone like that.
The strength to not attempt to fight something futile and something you cannot win is truly a mature strength and it takes a lot of resilience building and practice to hone. For me it did anyway. I’d argue daily with my partner. We literally did for over a decade. Why? She wouldn’t back down and I always assumed I could reason with her, so I never did either. A stalemate was always present.
Why Can’t I Be Stoic? The Power of Resilience and the Art of Letting Go
It is imperative to recognize that stoicism is not a matter of choice, but rather a lifelong commitment to self-improvement. One cannot simply decide to be stoic in the face of adversity and expect to master it overnight. It takes time, practice, and resilience to truly embody the philosophy.
Let us be clear – the practice of stoicism is not for the faint of heart. It requires a level of emotional maturity that many people struggle to attain. You must learn to recognize and understand your emotions, and then let them go. This is not an easy feat, as it goes against our natural instinct to control and suppress our feelings. However, it is essential if one hopes to overcome pain and suffering.
It is critical to note that not everyone can be reasoned with. In situations where it is futile to try and change someone’s mind, the wise choice is to refrain from engaging in fruitless debates. It takes tremendous strength and resilience to accept this fact, and to recognize that you cannot always control the circumstances or the people around you.
Building resilience is key to mastering stoicism. It is a process that involves mindfulness, self-care, and a willingness to learn from one’s mistakes. You must take care of your physical and emotional needs, practice mindfulness, and spend time with people who support you.
Stoicism is not a decision to be made, but a lifelong journey of self-improvement. It requires discipline, resilience, and a willingness to let go of the things you cannot control.
The benefits of practicing stoicism are immense – it can lead to a greater sense of inner peace and contentment, and help you navigate difficult situations with ease.
If you are serious about practicing stoicism, commit to it wholeheartedly and be prepared to put in the work.